Well, we all know the kind of world we live in. We meet fake people all the time, it could be at school, workplace, family & some could be our ‘friends’.
Who do you consider as a fake person?
Personally, i think I’d say someone who isn’t genuine about his/her intentions. Basically, your words and actions don’t match your feelings/intentions.
For instance, you’re being all nice to a certain person but deep inside, you wish the worst on them. Or you talk bad about someone and when he/she comes, all of a sudden you want to be sweet. That means you’re not genuine about your feelings/intentions and you’re hypocritical. If you’re this kind of a person, you better change because no one wants to befriend or be around someone like you. Sorry not sorry🤷🏽♀️
How can i spot a fake person?
-First of all, I don’t know about you but my gut instincts never fail me. I kid you not, sometimes i meet someone for the first time & i can tell what kind of a person they are. I just get this weird feeling that sends me negative signals if the person isn’t someone I’d like to befriend. Sounds crazy i know but if you’re like me, then you know what I’m talking about. Inshort, trust your gut instincts.
–They’ll bad mouth their friends or anyone you thought they were close to and when that person shows up, they’ll quickly wear a mask and act all nice & sweet.
-These people aren’t the same on social media and in real life. Sometimes, they will compliment you on social media and drop lovely compliments and in real life they talk shit. I don’t understand how you can’t keep the same energy you have behind the screen. If the love you’re showing me isn’t genuine, then I don’t want it. You don’t like me? Just keep on scrolling and save yourself the energy/time. I believe it takes alot to be two different people in one body.
-They take advantage of you and take you for granted. They will stomp all over you because to them, if someone is being kind without a little bit of fakeness, then they’re weak. Learn to say ‘No’ it doesn’t make you unkind or a bad person. You need to set boundaries!
-They are people pleasers. They want to appear perfect in the eyes of eyes. I won’t go into details in this but i have a post about ‘Pleasing others so here’s the link if you haven’t seen it before. https://missfahma.wordpress.com/2018/03/28/stop-pleasing-others/
-They are never around when you need them yet, they want you to be there every time they need you.
-They are competitors. To them, everything is a competition because they never want to see someone else shine. They’ll do whatever it takes to dim your light so they can outshine you.
-They are attention seekers. They are always talking/posting on social media how everyone leaves them at the end. But their intention is to make new friends through this process. They say or do dramatic things to get responses from others or find someone to sympathize & feel bad for them.
Lastly, nothing is safe to share with them. Whatever information you trust them with will either be used against you or will be spread around everywhere. They’re not as trustworthy as they seem to be when getting that information.
How do i get rid of a fake person?
-Avoid them or cut them off. I’d rather be friendless and lonely than being associated with fake people and their bad intentions.
-Some people are too nice, if you’re one of those that can’t ignore their existence to avoid them then keep your interactions short. For instance, if you meet at an event or a social gathering, don’t be over friendly. If they are smart enough, they will understand that you’re trying to avoid them.
I’ll end with my favourite quote when it comes to fake people;
“You got nothing to lose. You don’t lose when you lose fake friends.”
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